prologue
It begins with a breakup that takes all night.
Is this normal? I’m not sure. This is my first breakup, because this was my first relationship (sorry, high school boyfriends, but you don’t count. I still treasure the poems I wrote about missing looking at your dirty Converse sneakers under the table during biology class), and I was under the impression that it would be a lot cleaner than this.
But it’s not, and we’re in a hotel room in Palo Alto, and it’s midnight and there is nowhere I can possibly go and nothing I can possibly do but stay here and listen to my sandcastle of a long-distance romance—with a man nine years my senior and polar opposite from me in every way including, it’s becoming apparent, those that mattered (the literary merits of Haruki Murakami, bacon as a food group, the frequency with which one should sharpen one’s knives)—crumble.
i. the tracks of my tears
The sun rises the next morning. There is nothing to do but shower and venture back into the world of the living, and so I do, fumbling as I wedge my contact lenses in between my swollen eyelids and painting my dark circles over with a heavy coat of foundation.
I am not one to wallow in my bed. I got that out of my system years ago, during my third, wasted semester of college, and now come hell or high water or surprise all-night breakup session I will participate in the world, puffy eyes be damned.
And so this morning, when the sun rises and I confirm that this was not a dream, I get out of bed and I shower and I grit my teeth and I embark on what I have come to think of as “the North American crying tour.” I must make it through one day at the office and one overnight flight from San Francisco to Atlanta and just to hammer one last nail in the coffin housing my dignity, a commuter flight from Atlanta to D.C. at 7 A.M. It occurs to me that someday I am going to find this funny. It might even be funny already.
I make it through a solid three hours, a testament to the power of business email to dull anyone’s senses to the point that they can no longer experience normal human feelings. At 11:30 A.M., I run out of email, and I cry in the basement of my software company’s hip Palo Alto headquarters, face first in a synthetic leather IKEA couch next to a foosball table. I pray that none of the engineers decide that they need an 11:30 A.M. foosball tournament to get their creative juices flowing. I’m not sure they understand crying. (This is a generalization, I know. Engineers have feelings too. You’ve seen the iPhone 6 lines.)
At 5:30, I go to SoulCycle. At 6:07 or so, I begin to cry in SoulCycle. I continue to cry in SoulCycle, in part because I’m sad and the instructor keeps shouting inspirational things about how I’m a warrior and a rockstar but really I’m just a leaky faucet, and in part because I am now one of those assholes who writes essays for SoulCycle’s Twitter feed about how SoulCycle transformed them from a leaky faucet into a functional human.
I leave SoulCycle with an endorphin high that propels me through one last tortured farewell with him in an airless hotel room and to the airport and through the boarding process and into a seat and through the air until we get somewhere over the mountains, when it occurs to me that I haven’t slept in a day and a half and that the relationship I spent the past year of my life cultivating has crumbled like a sandcastle and also that the music on my iPod is all from high school and not only is it depressing, but it’s also kind of embarrassingly bad. I take another Xanax and turn up the Dashboard Confessional because I’m on an airplane and there’s really nothing else I can do about my life at this point.
I land in Atlanta and stagger toward the gate where I will board a commuter jet to my final destination. The boarding area is full of fat white men in business suits who look like they are off to D.C. to lobby for the NRA. I look haggard. Red-eye flights are cruel. Red-eye flights are crueler when you’ve spent most of the previous day wallowing in your own angst. I feel like the Michelin Man.
The airplane to D.C. is smaller than I like and freezing. I grab a blanket that some previous passenger has abandoned on a seat, probably after contaminating it with Ebola, and wrap myself in it. I curl into my window seat. I thank Airplane Jesus for granting me this window seat. I begin to cry silently into my neck pillow. It occurs to me that this may be my nadir: wrapped like a burrito in a stolen blanket that is probably contaminated with, at the very least, the common cold, on a commuter flight to D.C. surrounded by fat white men in business suits, sobbing like the world has ended with my face molded involuntarily into my best “I Love Lucy” crying face.
The woman next to me orders a bottle of wine and drinks the whole thing between 7:20 and 8:00 A.M. I want to hug her. I don’t, but I want to.
My girlfriends, who are the greatest girlfriends in the history of the universe (more on this later), pick me up at the airport with a handmade sign. I cry at the airport. I walk into my apartment and I drop my suitcase and I make a Family Circus-esque beeline through the 600 square feet, scouring every inch for signs of him and cramming them into the bottom of my storage chest.
I haven’t slept in two days but the thought of sleeping is daunting. Instead, I make an appointment with the eye doctor. I send my closest coworker an email to tell her that I’m not functional today and that I’ll be back in the office tomorrow. I put on my bikini and I climb eight floors to the roof of my high-rise building and I bake in the sun until my eyes feel dry again.
ii. a little help from my friends
My friend J____ takes the bus down from New York City to spend the weekend with me. (See “the greatest girlfriends in the history of the universe,” above.) We drink, and drink some more, and we go to a pizza restaurant with my sister and her husband and the four of us order a quattro carne pizza to celebrate the fact that I am no longer dating a vegetarian.
“Do not talk to him,” says K____, after I confess that he is still contacting me, asking after my well-being. I waffle and mumble about how I feel like I have to, because I’m worried about him, and this and that and every excuse I can think of to cling to the last grains of sand before they wash into the ocean.
She is right, of course. She always is. Several days later, I text her in a panic because it’s worse than it would have been if I had just quit talking to him. She talks me down from the precipice and doesn’t even say “I told you so.” I make a vow to myself to always listen to K____ because she is always right and if I take her advice, I will be more okay than I would be otherwise.
“Time and distance,” she says, again and again. I write it in my journal. I repeat it to myself. Time and distance. Time and distance.
“I don’t know how many more breakups I have in me,” says A____ ruefully. We are discussing how very sad breakups are, and how surprised I was by this fact. I think back on how much of an uncaring asshole I must have been to my friends when they were going through breakups in the past. I expect that the next time someone gets dumped, I will show up on their doorstep with chocolates and insist on petting them and pouring wine down their throats until they politely ask me to leave.
iii. the sound of silence
What happens next is this: the pit of panic that sits like a walnut in my chest, knocking occasionally to say “hello” and to remind me that it exists, is knocked loose. It rockets around my insides like a pinball, rendering me helpless in the face of the crazy that I’m usually capable of tamping down enough to function. I’m not sure what this says about what I was doing with my feelings while I was building the sandcastle that was my relationship.
I do an excellent job at acting like a functional human being. I feel slightly bitter that my coworkers don’t know how hard I’m working at being functional. I consider mailing them physical copies of documents covered with the stains of my tears, but this seems excessive. When I’m not hiding in the corner of my office crying, I am aggressively cheerful. People ask how I’m doing and I shriek “FINE!”, which seems like a fairly obvious signal to them that either I’m not fine or I’ve discovered meth (which is probably a distinct subcategory of “not fine,” now that I think about it, but fortunately for everyone involved, I’m not cool enough to know where to get meth).
My officemate is on vacation for the week. This is both a blessing and a curse. A curse, mostly, because she’s a comforting presence and without another human in the office, I’m free to listen to Taylor Swift without headphones, which is healthy for no one. A blessing, though, because there’s something kind of delicious about shutting the office door, curling up in a ball in the corner, and crying into my chest. It’s kind of like when I say I’m working from home and I’m actually on the roof deck checking my email on my phone. Only soggier.
I begin to feel aggressively lonely. I feel lonely in a way that is unfamiliar to me, a sworn and avowed curmudgeon who typically prefers a book for company. I spend a Saturday afternoon at brunch with friends and go home to my empty apartment and sit in the dark with my panic. It’s bewildering, because two weeks ago when I was in a long-distance relationship and I never saw him anyway, I was perfectly content to spend a Saturday night with no plans taking myself on a date to the movies or devouring a novel at the Barnes & Noble down the street.
I log onto Facebook and watch a video of my high school classmate proposing to his girlfriend at Disneyland.
I fear that when the world spots me alone, now, they’ll know that I failed at sustaining a relationship, that I’ve failed at sustaining many relationships, that I am not actively choosing to be alone the way I used to but rather I have been left alone. This is the walnut of crazy zinging its way into my brain. When the rational part of my brain resurfaces, I am able to remind myself that the relationship failed because we were not the right people for one another.
The rational part of my brain seems to surface more and more infrequently. I feel like I am scuba diving without the appropriate gear.
I need to be constantly entertained. I fly to Washington to visit my parents for a fortuitously timed vacation and spend ten days trotting after my mother to the grocery store and the pharmacy and the nursing home to visit Grandma and and Pilates and the hairdresser, anything to give me something to do with my brain other than think about how aggressively sad and lonely I am right now. (I’m not sure that my poor mother knew she’d need to expend as much energy taking care of me on this visit as she had to when I was three. Next time I visit, I expect to find that she’s hired me a babysitter. In my defense, I no longer need my diaper changed, and I am capable of making my own breakfast that doesn’t involve eating poisonous mushrooms off of the lawn, to name some of my primary failings as a three-year-old.)
I watch the clock tick down to my inevitable return to D.C. and I think about sitting alone in my apartment and I begin to panic again. When I resurface, I remember how much I like to spend time alone and that I spend plenty of time in the company of others and that it’s absurd to expect that life is always going to be easy and that sometimes I am going to be underwater without the appropriate scuba equipment and that this is not a permanent condition. Time and distance. Time and distance. Time and distance.
iv. love is a battlefield
I begin to think in really, really bad metaphors. Worse than the scuba diving metaphor.
I feel like a jellyfish.
I feel like a leaky faucet.
I feel like a used Kleenex. No, that one’s kind of gross. I feel like a wrung-out washcloth.
I feel like someone took a knife, baby, edgy and dull, cut a six-inch valley in the middle of my soul. Wait, that one’s kind of good. Oh, that’s because Springsteen wrote it. Dammit.
I feel like a wrung-out washcloth.
v. don’t think twice, it’s alright
I begin to think about the exciting things I can do when I’m over him. I calculate that this will be true after two things happen: 1) My criteria for new boyfriends does not consist of “a curmudgeonly vegetarian in his mid-thirties who likes German philosophy and runs marathons and likes to play Leonard Cohen songs on his guitar” and 2) my criteria for new boyfriends also does not consist of “a barely legal ginger who subsists entirely on beef jerky and listens to Nickelback.”
I count myself lucky that I don’t believe in the notion that there’s only one person out there for me. Like, it sucks to get dumped, but it must suck A LOT WORSE when you think you found #TheOne and then they move on without you. Also, it must suck A LOT to break up with someone who you’ve been dating for longer than a year. And divorce must just literally be the worst thing in the universe. Except for getting widowed. Oh my God, everything is more terrible than this and I will probably be over it after my next case of the hiccups.
In the grand scheme of breakups, this one is not actually that bad. The panic walnut is bad, but the breakup itself is not bad. I envision us having a civil conversation several months from now. I recognize that it is probably for the best that our relationship ended when it did not only because it wasn’t, like, #MeantToBe and also because I was apparently incredibly emotionally constipated and I need to spend a lot of quality time navel-gazing and figuring out why I’m such a nutcase, and then maybe I need to become a missionary and do some things that don’t involve thinking about myself and crying into my pillowcase.
And so here I am today, three weeks out, bobbing like an under-equipped scuba diver in the toxic and beautiful ocean that is love and relationships and friendship and heartbreak and really bad metaphors. I feel like a real adult now: like I can go write a terrible first novel featuring a thinly veiled version of him in a supporting role and throw it out, like in a while I can go meet someone new and we can laugh about the time that I got dumped in a hotel room in Palo Alto and I had to wrap myself like a burrito in a stolen blanket and cry into my neck pillow and all the fat white businessmen on the plane must have thought that I was a tragic, raving lunatic. And I was a tragic, raving lunatic, and I think that for a few more weeks—maybe even a few more months—I might still be a tragic, raving lunatic, but that’s okay because we are all tragic, raving lunatics bobbing in the bad metaphor ocean and I don’t really think there’s much we can do about that.
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I’m sorry Dana! I don’t love that this happened to you, but I do love how it was written. Incredibly eloquent despite the circumstances. Sending you hugs from Wisconsin
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I just had a break up and I am an all tragic, raving, lunatic bobbing in that ocean! It’s okay, life goes on!
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Very well written…
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I understand the little walnut well, and the bell curve of anxiety and loneliness that draws out in frightening peaks before mellowing out. Thank you for opening yourself up!
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This is a heartbreaking story, very well written.
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Beautifully written. Best of luck to you.
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This is the best thing I’ve read all week!
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Hey dana it’s such a tragic story I would not help but imagine. …the break up so disheartening
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Break ups are always hard to handle without your friends support and shoulder to cry on. Went through same things and you cant even imagine how much I had bugged my friends during the cry baby phase.
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I’ve come to accept my tragic raving lunacy and it’s okay. I think the best thing you can do is do whatever you want. Because, at least for right now, nothing else matters. You will eventually overcome this (this I can assure you), but it will take time. So, take care of yourself and put you first until you feel you have the strength to reach out to others again. Love always finds its way back in some form or another. Best of luck, Dana.
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Love love love this. .. beautifully written.
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Nice writing and I am so sorry you had to go through such a painful event in your life. The way I looked at my breakups was: “There is someone much better waiting out there for me.” Was I surprised!
A little bit of advice as to the length of the post(s). I try to keep mine to 500 words a post. So, if there happened to be an agent fishing for a “new writing talent” s/he won’t have to read the whole book in one setting :-)
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It’s been such a long time since I have been thru a breakup. Reading this brought back old feelings, I completely understand but God makes no mistake. And I am happy now, Im so glad I have gone through those heartaches it only make me stronger, when i met my husband i was i knew what I wanted. More commonly known as “maturity” … i know is not what you want to hear right this moment but with time and God’s love in your heart it will get better. Pray and ask him to ease your pain, ask him to speak to your heart.
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I love you for this response.
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Your situation is so similar to yours that I really traveled with you in it. Wonderfully written by the way and I’m glad to hear that you’re at a stage of getting over him. I know presently that what you present is not exactly how it feels when you wake up in the morning or sleep at night, but thank you for sharing.
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You have such an elegant and undoubtedly brilliant writing skill. Such a beautiful write up and I am so sorry you had to go through such a tragic break up
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I love your comment about how your colleagues don’t know how much effort you’re putting in to functioning. I suffer from post natal depression but I’m a great actor as it turns out and you wouldn’t guess, but wow it takes a lot of effort to look normal… your story was very well written, it’s just a pity you have the story to tell
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So well written.
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Oh My God! This is really good.
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Exactly what I needed to read today, thank you! This scuba diver with the wrong equipment feeling I know all too well. X
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Old memories come to mind.. Not bad memories but the loving memories of old friends I’ve dated and still continue to talk to. Thanks for sharing.
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I’m gonna save this for next time I get dumped !
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Sorry this happened but I join everyone in saying that you did make a very beautiful piece out of this experience. Chin up, dear!
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I love how this was written <3
Feel better. Hugs!
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“feel like someone took a knife, baby, edgy and dull, cut a six-inch valley in the middle of my soul. Wait, that one’s kind of good. Oh, that’s because Springsteen wrote it. Dammit.”
Thank you for this :)
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Fantastically written and LOVED every word.
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I loved this. Very well-written. Very funny and even entertaining. It has a distance to it, as if it were an ugly, once-removed cousin you’re writing about. Or, as if you decided that stepping back for a while to look at the thing wasa damned good idea. Must have been therapeutic to write. Thanks.
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I hate to tell you that I loved this post, because I don’t want to look like I’m enjoying your misery….but I do enjoy how you write about it. Very real, thanks for sharing….
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I have a very important question… you wrote that he said that you were “incredibly emotionally constipated and I need to spend a lot of quality time navel-gazing and figuring out why I’m such a nutcase, and then maybe I need to become a missionary and do some things that don’t involve thinking about myself and crying into my pillowcase” did he actually say this to you? Honey, if this was actually said your only mantra moving forward in regards to this man should be, “f%#k him!”.
If that man doesn’t appreciate your individual brand of crazy then move on. I had some truly awful break ups, including with a guy who had been trying to cheat on me for months, but no one would take him up on it. Then I met my Husband, I decided that I was done not being myself so I never once censored myself with him and he loves me for it, he adores my brand of crazy and even though sometimes he drives me crazy I adore his brand too. We have been together for 7 years now.
Never settle for less than awesome :)
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Had to clarify here–those were entirely my thoughts, not his words! :-D Thanks for the kind thoughts.
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Remember in times of weakness Dana, your ex’s traits which as you admit with some deep inner knowing, were polar opposite. Having a partner that is different somewhat i.e. slightly more extroverted than you is a positive, a partner who is your polar opposite is a challenge. You are lucky to have such great friends too who love you just the way you are. The home made sign visual at airport is fantastic. And in times of weakness, visit your local library, (I always find librarys soothing) stroll boldly past the Haruki Murakami section and opt for a light, Daniele Steele novel, wherein the heroine who is dumped by an older bacon loving cad, perseveres. Avoid the chapter where she charges older cad with a dull bladed steak knife during breakup. Consider yourself saved.
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Ha! Love it–but I must admit that I’m the bacon-loving Murakami fan. :-)
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This is my first time here and you just wrote down all the crazy that is swirling around in my head. I am also going through (should be finished with but not) the worst breakup of my life this far. It will be ok – we will feel better – or at least the crying with have longer distances between sessions. This post of yours did make me feel better though and for that I am greatful.
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This is excellently written. I hope you are surviving life, without ebola and heartache!
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This is excellently written. I hope you are surviving life, without ebola and heartache!
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“A curmudgeonly vegetarian in his mid thirties…” are you just throwing random words together? I can’t imagine a real person fitting that description.
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Nope. Entirely accurate. I swear. When you think about it, though, aren’t most people just a bunch of random words thrown together?
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Well I guess, I just can’t wrap my mind around the fact that there’s a male who exists that is a curmudgeonly vegetarian. Did he have latent ovaries….err I mean transgender?
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Here now. I think you’ve rationalized this well enough. Break ups suck; I’m still trying to get my head functional again.
Time and distance. I’m keeping that in mind.
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This was meant for me. I feel the same way!!! It’s the worst. The happy ups and downs, because I’m more happy than sad but it still sucks, even when it’s wrong – you’re wrong for each other. Well written!!!
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Oh dear I am 5 weeks into that “afterlife” of a breakup. This made me laugh so hard, harder than I’ve laughed in awhile. I hope that you had some laughs while writing this. Love your dry humor=-)
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Quite an accurate description! Thanks for bringing me back to my first break up haha
“I expect that the next time someone gets dumped, I will show up on their doorstep with chocolates and insist on petting them and pouring wine down their throats until they politely ask me to leave” was my most favorite line as it made me laugh out loud :)
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Dear Dana, I loved your bittersweet post, and wishing you all the best!
Anami,xx
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*hugs* I had the same feeling a year ago.
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feels sad because i am gnu to the same pain.. i had in this relation fro 6 long years and now got break-up. This kills every part of me…
“you ll be again you but not completely of you will exist anymore!!!” just take care!!!
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If only I had read this when I went through the same thing, maybe I would’ve known I would not only survive but that I wasn’t alone. Your words dig to the essence of love lost.
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Think of something else in your life that seemed actually impossible to make it through. You have. You’re stronger than you give yourself credit for and all will work out. Maybe not today, not at this very moment, but if you open yourself up to the idea of a better tomorrow, it will come. Sending many hugs!
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Love this!
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I’m going through a breakup right now, one of those breakups that drag on for a month or two. Professionally things have never been better, but personally my life is an utter mess. You have my sympathy and understanding.
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My grandma used to say, “This too shall pass.” And it will. Please keep writing – this is hauntingly beautiful, something most (all?) of us can identify with on some level.
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So beautifully well written, thank you SO much for sharing this piece and congratulations on being Freshly Pressed!! x
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Thank u for having the courage to share such an intimate story of your thoughts… you definitely deserve to be with your soul mate and that one who knows exactly how u want to be proposed to! Soon come darling, soon come! :-)
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Love how you penned down those emotions,beautifully written! Sorry about what happened , hang in there! :)
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I think you just described every women’s feelings through a break up. I could certainly relate. I just love your writing. So descriptive, and very humorous. Thanks for sharing! Hopefully I won’t have to go through another break up, but if I do, I’ll defiantly think back to this. ;)
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I had always thought break ups were catastrophic. And then I met my husband and I felt silly for being so upset. But I remember feeling heart-sore for quite some time. Yes, time and distance does help, but know you have every woman in the world who has been through a break-up sending you warm wishes! #ItGetsBetter #HesProbablyAnAssAnyway
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This shows that you are healing from the inside out…and you will be ok.
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“I consider mailing them physical documents covered with the stains of my tears, but this seems excessive.” Never has one sentence been so depressingly, yet hilariously accurate of myself when I’m down. Breakups are shit. This post is fabulous.
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“I fear that when the world spots me alone, now, they’ll know that I failed at sustaining a relationship, that I’ve failed at sustaining many relationships, that I am not actively choosing to be alone the way I used to but rather I have been left alone.”
This is so true, and so incredibly well written. I was trying to label how I am feeling right now, I was trying to assign a name to that feeling of being “inadequate” and “unlovable” given that everyone else in the universe seems to be able to do what I have failed to achieve (a functioning relationship!).
You couldn’t have put it in a better way. Thank you for this post!
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Thanks so much to everyone who read, commented, liked, and shared this. I didn’t expect this to get as much attention it did and it’s heartwarming to hear from so many people who have been through similar experiences and not only survived but are thriving. I feel like I’ve been inducted into some kind of exclusive post-heartbreak society. Love to all and trust that I am hard at work on new posts that sound less like a product placement for Kleenex.
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Thank goodness you have some of the best friends in the world! Every woman needs them, and I count myself among the lucky. Very well written.
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Well written. What you written here are the same emotions I have felt after a breakup. Thank you for your openness.
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I’m going through a break-up right now, and all though it’s brings me no joy to read of others suffering, it is comforting to be reminded that I’m not the only one in the world feeling this way,
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Hi
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This is a wonderful description of exactly what break-ups feel like. I remember asking my friend once if she was afraid to tell people she was broken up due to embarrassment and this line, “I fear that when the world spots me alone, now, they’ll know that I failed at sustaining a relationship, that I’ve failed at sustaining many relationships” says it perfectly.
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Reblogged this on If Sugar Were My Boyfriend… and commented:
If you’re having an actual break-up, rather than just breaking up with Sugar, here’s a good read.
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I have so been there! But I must say “breaking up was right to do”! That’s my post on ending a relationship http://www.liveclarelesleyblog.com keep on keeping on and #liveclarelesley
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It scares me how much this is an almost identical representation of the weekend I just experienced. Thanks for sharing
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very well written! yes, break-ups suck but you are allowed a (short) grieving process. now, delete that Taylor Swift from your iPod!
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Oh, man, do I really have to delete the Taylor Swift from my iPod? How about I *say* I’m deleting it, but really I’m renaming the artist so it looks like I’m listening to Arvo Part?
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yes, it’s mandatory. Like blocking his number :)
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Paulo Cohelo: if you are brave enough to say goodbye, life will give you a new Hello.
Or something like that :)
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Breakups do suck and in the end it’s better to have ended now rather than later after a marriage. Unfortunately, my fiance just left me so it really hurts but you and I are not the first to go through this. One day we will come out better with a happier life.
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Im so sorry you had to go through that. This was beautifully written though. Good luck
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I just fell in love with your blog. I’m so sorry you had to go through that – but hopefully you’re aware that it was for the best and there are better things ahead.
Keep your chin up. Great job! xx
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Wonderful piece. I know how you feel, felt this way or worse when my relationship of 3 and half years ended. Time heals. Just focus on improving yourself and when the cold fingers of depression come…Get out of the house! :*
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Thank you for sharing your heart with such comic eloquence, Dana.
May you find the one who’d rather break his own heart than break yours.
Best,
Dani
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YO DANA GUURL! I know exactly how you feel. Except my long distance relationship also happened to be my high school sweetheart, and I actually wasted 3 years instead of just 1. From when I was 15 to 18. I was living in China and she in Vancouver so that ginormous time difference really helped. Then I ended up going to Boston for University and spent a shitton of money to visit her during my freshman year spring break. Anyhow, I have cried many many times like you explained except a bit more embarrassingly than into a blanket on the plane. I was outside the terminal and just broke down crying with my luggage in hand.
Well anyhow, just wanted to let you know that reading this post made me finally feel like I wasn’t alone in feeling like an emotional wreck when things are over. I really hope things are getting better! You deserve more and keep that head up girl!
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Oh yea and also, you’re an amazing writer. I would try mimicking this type of style, but the voice is just so elegantly put I feel like I hear you on the other side of the screen
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This is amazingly written!
Going through a breakup myself at the minute!
I love this!
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Theres a rainbow always after
the rain
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Hey, i just started blogging and its based on personal development, check out my new post “Confidence”
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